The hardest part of life is knowing (thinking) one reality and finding another in its place. Some people are very stoic and resolute when it comes to dealing with loss. "It has happened before and it will happen again. It happened to me. Suck it up. Get over it. I did." There are those who appear supportive and encouraging. "Hang in there. I feel your pain." Others just escape without making input. The truth is nobody cares like you do.
Why is this? The "How did this happen to me?" awareness sparks the realization that we are all in this together.
Your caregiving role probably does not include caring for strangers unless you are a healthcare professional or some other dedicated resource. What would it take to release your inhibitions about caring more and finding ways for you to give care?
Let us know what you are doing to improve caregiving for everyone.