For many if not most people, giving care can be a pain. It is like running out of gasoline in a car when the practice of driving on empty for miles at a time has become a habit. Some will view "getting from here there, whatever the cost" as preferable to "doing nothing now and not doing anything that encourages bad practices." Both attitudes yield the same results: going nowhere.
Giving care is not about gaining recompense or cutting losses. It is about finding right things and acting. Be careful. Without support, caregiving can drive you crazy.