The New Normal may be wherever you find relief. You can take some comfort there.
The demands of caregiving can be overwhelming–to care-receiver and caregiver alike–like moving to a new city or entering new company. The rest of us (those in states of familiarity and understanding) must do what we can to support both of them to keep their “New Normal” from collapsing.
For this reason it would be nice to have experienced men (core groups) involved in the ITN meetings. Not to act as salesman (“Here, do it this way.”) but rather to behave with compassion and consolation.