It is understandable to be angry or upset by things which happen.
What defines us is the way we respond to life.
We might apply comforts, self-indulgences, and personal perks to assauge the atrocity of heightened expectations.
We could respond to increased demand for caregiving much the same way assaying, “It’s my ball…I’m taking it home.”
We may put a tether on it (whatever) to keep it at bay.
The method(s) we choose to use as reactions to rage are often spontaneous, albeit learned responses. It is time to start hanging with the big dogs of caregiving.